How To Get Help
If you have a friend who seems depressed, the first thing you must do is listen. Ask questions, and be persistent in getting answers. Don't make judgments or try to convince your friend that he or she isn't making any sense. Try to listen and learn without judging or attempting to convince them that they are wrong in their thinking.
What to do if you suspect someone is suicidal:
- Talk to them alone in a private setting;
- Ask them if they are thinking of killing themselves or are suicidal;
- Ask them if they have a plan.
- If the answer is yes, take them to the Emergency Room RIGHT AWAY and DON'T leave them alone. Don't try to downplay it and stop and get a bite to eat or anything like that, just take them directly to the emergency room.
- If the answer is no, make an appointment for them to see their therapist, psychiatrist, or doctor as soon as possible, and ask them how you can help them. Try to get them help as soon as possible. Ask them to make an agreement with you that they will not hurt themselves before they get help, or that they will contact you if they feel they are in crisis, or feeling worse.
Depression can be treated with medicines or counseling or with both. Approximately 80% of the people who seek help with their depression improve with treatment. Therapies such as cognitive behavioral and interpersonal (talk) therapy can help with depression. There are many medications now available, or a combination of both medication and therapy can prove to be very effective in treating depression. Remember that if one medication doesn't work, it doesn't mean they all won't work. Often times a person has to go through a period of trial and error to find the treatment that works best for them. This can be very frustrating and time consuming, but in the end it's worth it. Encourage your friend to stay the course and support them however possible.
WHERE TO GET HELP
- Mental health specialists, such as psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, or mental health counselors
- Family doctors
- Employee assistance programs
- Community mental health centers
- Hospital psychiatry departments and outpatient clinics
- University or medical school programs
- State hospital outpatient clinics
- Family services, social agencies, or clergy
- Private clinics and facilities
- Local medical and/or psychiatric societies
- Health maintenance organizations
Check your local universities that offer graduate training in psychology or psychiatry. They often offer low cost therapy or medication management.
Please visit our Resources for Depression page for further information on where to get help.
